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Life is beautiful whether you're soaking in sunshine or caught in a thunderstorm. I take the beauty of life for granted too often. I have a supportive husband who I don't want to live life without, a beautiful son who is always reminding me of the simple things that really matter, and an independent daughter who is teaching me to throw schedules out the window and live in the moment. My day is made when free samples fill my mailbox. I love discovering a new product and sharing it with others. I'm addicted to coupons and every penny counts. I hope you will enjoy reading my posts and will share your success stories with me as well.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

I'm Happy for You (Sort of...Not Really) by Kay Wills Wyma Book Review and Giveaway


I'm pretty sure Kay wrote this book just for me.  Wow!  This book really hit home in my life right now.  I'm Happy for You (Sort Of...Not Really) is a book about finding ways to escape the comparison trap that is so easy to fall into these days.  With social media in our face constantly bombarding us of what others are doing, what they have and we don't, what they have accomplished and what we haven't, it's no wonder we fall so easily into the trap of discontentment.  Is it possible to have peace in the midst of relentless pressures to compare?  I'm Happy for You is such a relatable book and Kay does a fantastic job helping you feel not alone in this comparison culture.  Kay has a great sense of humor and passes on wisdom without judgement.

Some of my favorite thoughts from Kay are:

Regardless of where we land, we aspire to live the "right" way, as if there is one.  So we spend our lives observing, comparing, and judging.  Then we strive.  We view ourselves as Greater Than or Less Than according to the set standard -- what we've done, where we've been, what we have or don't have, what we need to be okay -- as it relates to those around us.  We tend to view life as a race and use the good aspects of comparison to propel us forward, even sharpen our strengths.  But somewhere along the way, we allow the negative aspects of comparison to rule as we make keeping up with the Joneses the benchmark of our contentment.

Our need to belong is not rational, but it is a constant that exists across all peoples in all cultures....When we feel like we belong we feel connected and we feel safe.  As humans we crave that feeling and we seek it out.

Life is full of doors we close to hide our less-than-ideal reality.  We make the outside look good.  We primp and curl, pluck and color.  We take a dozen shots and select the best pic for posting -- after some creative cropping and application of a flattering filter.  Because we think everyone is looking our way, not always to appreciate but sometimes to judge.  Life's a game where we position ourselves to appear in the right light, to be ahead, to win.  And if not to win, at least to show well.  So we shove our "regular" life behind closed doors in hopes that a shiny, well-groomed outside will divert attention.

Striving to reach an elusive This High, as determined by societal comparison, leads to discord.  Joy comes when we find harmony with ourselves and the life we're currently living, resting in our potential rather than being distracted by everyone else's.

The measure of a life's impact is not about numbers or followers or reposts.  Meaningful relationship is measured in authentic and honest accountability with people who aren't competing against us but who stand ready to ascend mountains and to travel valleys with us.

Any light that we see coming from the moon is only a reflection of the sun's light.  When we fully surrender to God -- we shine.  And the shine is never our own.  The more we surrender, the more we bask in His light and the more we reflect His light.


**Disclosure - I received a complimentary copy of this book from Blogging for Books for this review.  All opinions expressed here are my own.


I'm so excited to be giving one of my readers this book!  All you have to do is enter below.  The winner will be chosen on Friday, July 10th.  

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