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Life is beautiful whether you're soaking in sunshine or caught in a thunderstorm. I take the beauty of life for granted too often. I have a supportive husband who I don't want to live life without, a beautiful son who is always reminding me of the simple things that really matter, and an independent daughter who is teaching me to throw schedules out the window and live in the moment. My day is made when free samples fill my mailbox. I love discovering a new product and sharing it with others. I hope you will enjoy reading my posts and will share your stories with me as well.

Thursday, October 14, 2010

Working Mom vs SAHM

I've been a SAHM (stay at home mom) for almost 4 months now. To say, that it was something I always dreamed about would be a complete lie.

I've always dreamed about having that successful career and making lots of money. I loved getting a paycheck every Friday knowing that I worked my rear off to earn that paycheck. Getting bonuses and earning commissions was like a high for me. I always wanted more money and more responsibility given to me at my job. I loved working overtime hours because it made me feel like I was important at my job and without me, they would be in trouble. I loved being able to take my paycheck and go shopping and buy anything I felt like buying. Getting manicures, pedicures, facials, and massages had become a monthly routine. I loved not relying on Mike's paycheck and just knowing that I had my own "play money" to spend. Looking back, it was a huge pride issue for me. Money and success aren't what is important in life.

Being a SAHM has made me realize that life is short, precious, a gift from God. You learn to appreciate the smaller blessings in life. You realize that all those items you were saving up to buy with the extra money in the bank, is just stuff. Stuff that we don't need to live life with. Sure, it would be great to have the latest and best gadget out there, but really, is it necessary? I've learned to appreciate what I have and to sort my needs from my wants. I've been able to do so much with the "extra time" on my hands. New Beginnings wouldn't of happened without me staying at home. I'm a more positive person without the stress of work. I'm able to get more deals and freebies that help our one paycheck budget. Mike gets healthier meals since I have more time to prepare and cook the meals at home. And the list goes on....

I can't say that I still don't think about the paycheck I don't get anymore. It's a daily struggle that I have deal with. I have to refocus every day on what's important in life. I'm only human, I'm going to worry about meeting our budget with one paycheck, there are things that I'm going to want and have to realize that it's not a need, etc. God says in Phillipians 4:19 - And my God will meet all your needs...God is and will take care of all our needs. I just need to trust in Him and know that He has me being a SAHM for this season in life.

1 comment:

  1. Ashley, this made me cry. What a wonderful blessed lesson you have learned early on. I am praying that God will continue to bless you and strengthen you in your new position as an SAHM. ;)

    Praying for Mike, too, that God will abundantly bless his business so there are extra funds for some of those things that aren't really needs...because they are sometimes needful!!

    Love you!
    momma g.... and, thanks for sharing your heart here!